Sunday Soccer

Today just went to play soccer with my cousin. (the financial planner)
The game was played at lor ah soh (outskirt of Hougang area)
It was like omg.. 11yrs ago since we last played together...
That was so long and it only show how fast times have passed...

We had a good and fast pace game with some aggressive tackle in between.
Although I was so tired ... yet I was smiling....
because I am lucky to be able to kick and play soccer...
luckily I didnt have any injuries which happened to one of the player
while he was going to pick a ball.. that was a freak accident siah...
His left ankle was a bit swollen and the game was stopped...

I wish him speedy recovery and hope he will be more careful next time...
Hopefully, there will be more soccer games with my cousin
because I really enjoy the feeling of playing game with him...

Dating Fears =)

Ditch your dating fears
By Kimberly Dawn Neumann

Yes, dating can be scary! You’ve got such high hopes and you’re putting your heart on the line, so it makes sense you’d find yourself a little freaked. But don’t let your jitters ruin a rendezvous. Here’s how we can help make that happen: We decided to address some of the most common insecurities that people experience in those early dating days. Our simple tips help you turn your worry into a “Wow, that was fun!” feeling.


Dating Insecurity #1: “I’m not my date’s type.”Stressed that Mr./Ms. Adorable won’t approve of your looks, outfit, career, personality, dating history, etc.? This line of thinking won’t do anything but make you a nervous wreck. A better bet? Flip it. “The purpose of a date is to decide whether you want another one, not whether the person likes you,” says Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., author of Secrets You Keep From Yourself: How to Stop Sabotaging Your Happiness. So just act as if your date is the one auditioning for approval—because it’s true. “This will allow you to relax so you can enjoy the moment,” says Dr. Neuharth.
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Dating Insecurity #2: “I’m going to do something stupid.” You worry that you’ll spill red wine in your date’s lap, choke on a nacho, slip on the sidewalk or have some other mortifying mishap… suddenly you’ll be every shade of red and your date will think you’re a dork, right? Think again. Even if something like this were to happen, here’s the upside: Showing your vulnerable side can actually endear you to your match. “Some happy couples’ fondest memories and oft-repeated stories are about early embarrassing moments, like snorting when laughing or dipping your sleeve in soy sauce,” says Dr. Neuharth. “When you see another person being embarrassed, it humanizes that person and you feel a natural kinship.” So if the unimaginable happens, laugh (instead of freaking out or apologizing over and over all night) and embrace that you’re now part of the “embarrassing dating moments” club.

Dating Insecurity #3: “What if I have to let this person down eventually?”“Before a date, I always worry about how I’ll handle things if I don’t want to see the guy again and he’s into me,” says Christina Avion, 32, Los Angeles, CA. “I feel terrible about the prospect of having to reject someone and can work myself up into a real state over it.” Hey, it’s nice to be concerned about your date’s feelings, but a candlelit dinner doesn’t equal signing up for happily ever after. “As the saying goes, you can’t make a good omelet without breaking a few eggs,” says Dr. Neuharth. So quit over-thinking and deal with turning the person down when and if it’s actually necessary. Should that be the case, Dr. Neuharth suggests replying with “I don’t think we’re a match” or simply “No, thank you” when you’re asked for another date. And while it feels like you’re delivering some huge blow, try some perspective: “Letting someone down shows that you respect the person’s time, and most adults can take care of themselves,” says Dr. Neuharth.


Dating Insecurity #4: “I’ll accidentally offend my date.”You roll your eyes at the mention of a pretentious film festival, only to realize your dinner partner was actually inviting you along. How do you recover? “If you offend someone, the magic words are simply ‘I’m sorry,’” says Dr. Neuharth. You can’t possibly know everything about your date, so you may unintentionally cross a no-no line. If you apologize sincerely but your date is still touchy, then you probably wouldn’t work out with that person long-term anyway. But if he or she appreciates your contrition, you can move on to more interesting (and neutral) subjects.

Dating Insecurity #5: “I’m so bad at small talk.”Feeling conversationally challenged? Whether you tend to talk a mile-a-minute or go silent and slack-jawed, hiccups in first-date banter can be panic-inducing. “I went out with a guy who barely spoke, so I found myself spilling personal information about myself, my family and my job just because I couldn’t handle the silence,” admits Jennifer Byrne, 35, Minneapolis, MN. If you tend to blab when you’re nervous or to fill an awkward silence, remind yourself that it’s not your job to carry the conversation single-handedly. “Your date is capable of coming up with things to talk about, too,” says Dr. Neuharth. “Pause, listen or even break the ice by saying, ‘Don’t you hate awkward silences on dates?” A tactic that’s good for people who tend to clam up? Always have a couple of great conversation-starting questions in your back pocket, like “What’s the one weekend activity you never get tired of?” or “What adventures do you hope to have before the year is over?”

Dating Insecurity #6: “The ending of the date is always awkward.”Stressing about the goodnight moment before you even order dessert: Kiss or no kiss? Shake hands? Go for a hug? Ask for another date? The best solution is to let your gut guide you. If you had a good time, say so with feeling. If you didn’t, just say “thank you.” And if you’re not sure whether to smooch, just smile broadly, squeeze your honey’s hand, and turn to depart. It gives your date the perfect opportunity to make a move without any weirdness if he or she doesn’t go for a kiss. “If you two clicked, there will be more dates and the endings will become easier and probably more delicious!” says Dr. Neuharth. Which is a nice thought that you can use to calm your nerves during a date.

Jie Kou

Why should I bother?

Sometimes, I wondered.. "why should I bother"
Bother about the people around me, the problems that is not related to me,
bother about unnecessary troubles, bother about work which is just work lor.. etc
Why Why Why?
I have no answer at all...

Then what does my mother want from me?
Why is it that she just cannot stop her "nagging or complaints" to me?
As if I have commited a major crime or what?
I already listened to her so much since I was young and
I hated what I am today because I feel like I am not happy at all... zzzz
Why must everything I do also need her permission and involvement?
I want to turn rebelious so many times and moved out of the house...
She knew that what my personality is like and she just
want to provoke me further by asking silly and stupid questions repeatedly.
Do I really have to become a CRAZY and MAD person before I can have peace of mind?
I really cannot stand it anymore... I just so scared inside...
I hope and pray that I will not lose my hot temper and become out of control...
I do not know what is my tolerance level and patience limit to my loved one esp my family.

Somehow they kept doing things which I just feel not interested to know at all...
Perhaps the more I bo chap, the more attention they seek from me...
Damn it... It is not I am bo chap... it is never because I do not care or don't bother to know...
Simply the fact is... I do care and bother.. and
In fact, I just think I cared, concern and bother about them too much
maybe in a different way and methods using the devil power...
perhaps I just want to do things differently from others...


OMG... suan le....forget it...
Let the heaven decide for me.
Complaining and vexing so much is also useless now...
There are much better things to do tomorrow...
Leave me alone and I will be fine...
I am going for my sleep now...
It is the best cure and medicine for me I guess....

Good Night everyone!
Sweet Dreams too
^_^

Movie Night 10,000 BC

It was the first time I registered for the free movie night tickets and
watch with the company employees (who brought along their friends. spouse, kids etc)
We went to Cathay cinema near PS and the seat there was quite comfortable.. haha... well, we even bought moss burger before going into the cinema 20min earlier to book a seat.

I do not have a high expectation of a movie so overall, the show
was quite ok to me... just that I don't really understand the moral of the story
Maybe Good can never triumph over the evil.. haha
The movie has a sweet and happy ending .. The hero saved the people, rescued his woman and lived happily ever after.
I love the hero in the movie because
I always dreamed of being the hero (minus the woman) too. lol

Hero rulezzzzz ^^

Car Accident?

Today, there was car accident outside my company which happened around 9.20am.

I was taking a cup of coffee when right at the top of the window, I could see that
the car had hit the rail and fell into the big drain.
At this time, I was thinking....
OMG... did anyone get hurt and is the driver still alive?
Luckily, the car did not hit the bus stop which is less than 10m away
because there could have be people waiting for bus
when the accident happen...

Wen I saw the condition of the car and how badly dented it is

as well as the number plate dropped off the front of the car,

my mind was like...

What the hell is the driver actually doing at that time?
Is he speeding?

Is he talking on his handphone?

Is he sleepy and "half-asleep" while driving or should I say daydreaming?

There was little possibility to hit the rail on the side of the road until so badly.

See picture and you could be shocked if you are at the scene.
He definitely must be speeding... I ponder
How reckless and irresponsible can he be?

What happen if he have killed someone or even crashed onto another vehicle?

It could have been disasterous
I kept thinking to myself that God decide to spare his life and

give him another chance to live on.
It was quite amazing that he didnt get any bad injuries as
he was still able to talk and smoke and at the same time,

I can even hear him cursing and swearing with a traffic policeman...

Basket... I guess this thing will not had happened if he have not speed in the first place.
It give me cold shiver just to think what if I happened to walk along that pavement
at that time when the accident happened... God bless...

To all youngsters, drivers & whoever is driving or riding (including the ladies & woman),
Please DO NOT SPEED...
Please be considerate and think of others who are also on the road and pavement.
Please be responsible for you own actions...
Lastly, please spare a thought and think of your loved one, friends and family.

How hurt and painful will they be if you are badly injured or killed because of a stupid

car accident due to speeding?

Can you also imagine what would happen if there was some

innocent victim (eg: your friends, relative or family members - *touchwood*)

who died as a result of such reckless driving....

Be a safe, responsible and good driver.

Thank U ^_^

Honesty is Stupidity?

Sometimes my mind keep wondering...
Is it good to be honest to everybody...
Is being honest to people a bad thing...
Or must I always be "fake" just to impress and please people?
I don't know... and I have no answer....
Anyway, I guess it depend on individual personality, characters, own values and beliefs.
as well as the situation and the type of people u mixed with.

Well, I choose to be honest and admit my mistake to one of my youngest sis, R
I was bathing and somehow or rather...
I accidentally flushed down one of her "facial wash" tube into the toilet bowl...
Basket... how did it happen?
I mean I just flushed the toilet bowl and the container too slippery and fallen into the bowl.
Alamak... I was thinking...
Should I tell her I was the one who make her facial wash tube "disappeared"
or should I just pretend that nothing happen...
Well... the devil inside me said.. nvm lah... not your fault... it just happened and forget it lor..
but my angel (conscience) tell me... just admit to her that you are the one who carelessly
lose the thing accidenatally lor... will not die right!
Zzzz.. in the end, when I came out of the toilet...
I told R that.. sorry kor just now accidentally flushed down your facial wash tube
into the toilet bowl...
Then her reaction was... WHAT THE HELL....
KNS.. u bloody kor... do you know how much that facial wash cost...
it is around $20 which I bought a few weeks ago...
At this moment, I knew I must have make a mistake in confessing the truth to her..
haiz... out of my own pride and dignity, I shot back and argue with her...

Then the next day, I gave her the $20 for her to buy a new one....
Now I guess being honest and confessing your mistakes is "stupidity and costly"
haha... I learnt a "new" lesson today..

People's Day (Bowling sux)

Today is Friday... 29th Feb... a leap year which occur once every 4 year...
Wondering who are the lucky babies to be born at this time... Are they (un)lucky to celebrate their birthday only once every 4 yr?
Or do they also celebrate it on 28th Feb or 1st Mar every year?

Haha.. machiam like got 3 kind of date to celebrate for babies born on this special day.
It is just like having a European Cup or World Cup once every 4 year....
lol.. joking only.. no offence to those born on 29th Feb, OK!

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Well... today is also a teambonding day for my dept..
Actually, every last week (friday) of the month,

there will be such a
event called "People's Day" (or teambonding)
Initially, I thought it sound cool but after a while,
I find it lame and useless... just "for show" nia

For this teambonding, we went to have our lunch at Balestier area
Eating chicken rice and some other "special dishes"
The budget was $120 but final bill was around $150.
My big big boss (from Holland) came to Singapore and
he was invited to join us for the "teambonding" as well.

After the lunch, we went to bowling at Hougang Superbowl....
Sian.. I don't like bowling.. but I cannot be such a "spoiled sport"
because everybody have to participate except one of my colleague
who is in his mid 50s got a back problems so he was "exempted"

Well, my first throw was a disaster...
the 2 attempts failed miserably and fell into "long kang" (drain of the alley)
Anyway, the first game ended finally
My score was 87points which is better
than what I expected since I anyhow "throwed" all the ball
but I managed to get one strike ... lol...
The 2nd game was slightly better with my first throw a spare
and the 2nd throw a STRIKE... haha..
after that, I simply anyhow rolled the bowling ball
because who cares... I not interested to get high score also.

The final score for 2nd game was 98.

At last, it was all over...
Hehe.. the only good thing is I can go home at 4.30pm..
This is one of the earliest time I can go back because
I can finally get to see the some sunlight when I "knocked off"